Building a Sense of Peace and Contentment

Building a sense of peace involves finding ways to destress your life and bring in activities and relationships that add joy and fulfillment to your life. It also often means understanding and focusing on your sense of purpose.

When you live your life day to day, you may have thoughts of “Same ole, same ole.” Each day may feel routine and like you are going through the motions. Sometimes if feels like boring drudgery. But you don’t need to quit your job and move to an island paradise to change your experience. While that may sound fun, over time it probably would not feel fulfilling either.

Finding a sense of fulfillment is key to having a life that is peaceful and one in which you feel content. So what is it that fulfills you? For some, it can be as “simple” as finding a purpose with others. A friend of mine was clear that her purpose was to be kind to others. Each day felt like an opportunity to be kind and at the end of the day she felt fulfilled. This focus took away the need to strive to succeed or to compete with others, or focus on possessions or appearances.

You may find that your purpose is to learn new things or to explore. Maybe your family is your purpose, or to build a business, or to find a life partner. Whatever you identify as what really fits as your purpose now (it can change in the future)—what does it look like to really live that purpose? Picture in your mind how you could live your purpose each day.

In addition to the bigger goal of identifying your purpose, here are some practical steps to help you build a sense of peace in your life:

1. Mindfulness and Meditation:

Engage in mindfulness practices or meditation regularly. These techniques help you focus on the present moment, reduce stress, and cultivate inner peace.

This can also help you to focus on your purpose each day and not lose sight of it.

2. Gratitude:

Practice gratitude daily by reflecting on things you are thankful for. This shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have, promoting peace of mind.

3. Simplify Your Life:

Declutter your physical space and simplify your schedule. Having fewer distractions and obligations can create a sense of calm and order.

4. Nature and Fresh Air:

Spend time in nature and get fresh air regularly. Being outdoors can have a calming effect and help you feel more grounded.

5. Physical Activity:

Engage in regular exercise or physical activity. Exercise releases endorphins, which can boost your mood and reduce stress.

6. Healthy Relationships:

Cultivate healthy, supportive relationships with family and friends. Social connections can provide emotional support and a sense of belonging.

7. Mindful Breathing:

Practice deep breathing exercises. Deep breathing can help calm your mind and relax your body, reducing anxiety and promoting peace.

8. Set Boundaries:

Learn to say no to things that overwhelm you or don’t align with your priorities. Setting boundaries protects your time and energy.

9. Practice Acceptance:

Accept things you cannot change and focus on what you can control. This mindset shift can reduce inner conflict and promote peace.

10. Self-Care:

Prioritize self-care activities that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This could include hobbies, relaxation techniques, or simply taking time for yourself.

11. Mindful Consumption:

Be mindful of what you consume, including media, news, and social media. Limit exposure to negative or stressful content that can disturb your peace.

12. Spirituality or Faith:

Engage in practices that resonate with your spiritual beliefs or faith. This can provide comfort, guidance, and a sense of purpose.

Building a sense of peace is an ongoing process that requires patience and self-awareness. Experiment with these practices and find what works best for you to create a more peaceful and balanced life. At the DBT Center, we are here to help. For many RO DBT has been helpful in building relationships and reducing loneliness and DBT has been helpful for decreasing emotion-driven behaviors that take away from your sense of peace.