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Ever had one of those days when emotions like anxiety, anger, or sadness take over and feel impossible to shake off?

It’s easy for those feelings to start defining us. It’s so easy to go from “I feel sad,” to “I am sad.” When that happens then all that you do is done through the lens of being sad. But emotions are like fishes in an aquarium. They are all swimming around and sometimes one will be bigger than others and the biggest emotion will change. The emotion that is in front of the emotions aquarium will change too. But it doesn’t mean that other emotions aren’t still there. You can still have emotions like fear, worry, and even joy when sadness is (for the moment) the biggest emotion that you are feeling. There is a practice that can help with not over-identifying with any one emotion, mindfulness.

When you learn to experience difficult emotions without letting them overwhelm you, you can regain control and feel more balanced.

 

What’s the difference between mindfulness and over-identification?

Mindfulness:

Mindfulness is about being fully present with your emotions and recognizing them without judgment. It’s like saying, “I see you, anxiety,” without allowing it to dominate your entire day. By practicing mindfulness, you give yourself permission to feel emotions without letting them run the show. It helps you stay aware of your feelings without becoming emotionally overwhelmed.

Over-Identification:

Over-identification happens when we get so wrapped up in our emotions that we mistake them for who we are. Instead of thinking, “I’m feeling anxious,” we start believing, “I am anxious.” This small shift can make a big impact, increasing stress and making it harder to manage those feelings because we’ve allowed them to take over our sense of self.

 

How to Practice Mindfulness with Difficult Emotions:

1.  Notice and Name the Emotion:

Take a moment to notice what you’re feeling, but do it without judgment. For example, say to yourself, “I’m feeling angry,” instead of getting lost in the emotion.

2.  Pause and Breathe:

Focus on your breath for a few seconds to ground yourself in the present moment. This simple action can help bring clarity and calm.

3. Create Emotional Distance:

Remember that this emotion is temporary and doesn’t define you. Tell yourself, “This is just a feeling, and it will pass.”

4. Practice Self-Compassion:

Be kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel tough emotions—they’re part of being human. Treat yourself with the same care you’d give a friend going through a rough time.

By practicing mindfulness, you can manage your emotions with a sense of balance. Instead of letting tough feelings overwhelm you, this practice builds emotional resilience and keeps you grounded, even during life’s most challenging moments.

Additional Resources

If you’d like to read more, consider these resources:

1. Mindful.org – The Basics of Mindfulness

An excellent beginner’s guide to understanding mindfulness and how it can help manage emotions.

2. American Psychological Association – Mindfulness Meditation: A Research-Backed Tool for Managing Stress

A resource explaining the scientific basis of mindfulness and its benefits for mental health.

3. Kristin Neff – Self-Compassion and Mindfulness

Dr. Kristin Neff’s work on self-compassion, which includes mindfulness as a core element in emotional regulation.

4. Psychology Today – Over-Identification and Emotional Overload

An article exploring the concept of over-identification and how mindfulness can prevent emotional overload.

5. Greater Good Science Center – Mindfulness for Emotional Resilience

A resource that discusses how mindfulness fosters emotional resilience and how it contrasts with being overwhelmed by emotions.

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